It’s Not Selfish for Engineering Leaders to Answer: What Do You Want?

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What do you want? When Dr. James Bryant asks engineering leaders that question, the most common answer, after several seconds of silence, is “I don’t know.” In this solo episode, James explains why your own wants go quiet when you’re at capacity, and why your frustrations may be the fastest way back to an answer.

In this episode you’ll discover:

•Why your own needs go quiet after years of focusing on everyone else

•How the “hollow vision” exercise reveals success that would cost too much

•How to turn what frustrates you into a clearer picture of what matters

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Topics covered in this episode include:

•Why engineering leaders struggle to say what they want for themselves

•Why wanting something for yourself isn’t selfish

•How to create a personal vision (not a mission statement in first person)

•Personal vision vs. company vision

•Work-life balance vs. integration: how to Win at Work AND Win at Home

•Executive coaching questions that reveal what energizes you

•How to use frustration to discover what matters to you

•The hollow vision exercise: success that leaves you empty

•Carrying responsibilities because you can vs. because they’re yours

•Intentional living vs. running on momentum

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